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self (in a size eight, motherof- the-bride suit) at their daughter’s wedding.

Deciding what you can do, especially when someone is unfaithful, isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary if you want your power back. I remember going to my minister when my husband was caught having an affair (I had three little kids and they came to the session with me because I couldn’t get a babysitter) and he told me that my job was to be the best me I could be, not for my husband but for me. Back then I was frumpy, suspicious, and overweight and kept a totally cluttered and dirty home. I knew what I needed to do. I knew disorganization affected every aspect of my life; my health, relationships, finances, appearance, recreation, hospitality etc. but I got temporarily stuck in self-pity and the resultant poor habits and routines. Getting help is essential, and most of us aren’t very good at asking for it, but we need to get over that.

It was only when I shared my problems with my sister that the two of us came up with a plan. Where two or more are gathered you increase the energy tenfold, whether you’re robbing a bank or getting organized.

3. Create a plan of action

When I discovered that I could baby step my way to being organized, I let go of the vision of a mountain to climb. In 'Sidetracked Home Executives: from pigpen to paradise' we said, “You can only eat an elephant one bite at a time!” Not that we were into eating elephants, we just initially saw our “problem” as something so much bigger than we were.

4. Do at least one action every day according to the plan

When you break any problem down into manageable bites you can do anything! (If you walked five miles every day in a year you'd walk 1,825 miles. That’s almost half way across our country.)

5. Be patient and persistent Keep the vision of what you want in your mind as much as you can. One of my visions was surely from Nelly (my inner child). I wanted revenge. I wanted my ex to see what he lost and be sorry. Oh dear, I hadn’t quite learned that vengeance isn’t mine and anyway, the best revenge is having a happy successful life!

We don’t need to spend a single byte of our precious minds thinking about what somebody else thinks, even if he or she did hurt us. “What goes around, comes around,” is good enough for me.

6. Know you’re not alone

In 'The Course in Miracles' it says, “If you only knew who was with you on the path you’ve chosen, you would never be afraid.” Spend time feeling the presence of your guardian angels, the spirits of your ancestors and the Holy Spirit. You are NOT alone whether you know it or not.

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